On Monday, 5. in June 2023, at 18. uri, invited to the Central Library of Trebnje for the presentation of the book incomplete . With us will be the author of the book Danaja Lorencic, and the conversation with her will be conducted by Carmen L. Oven .
Sociologist Danaja Lorencic told in book form her stunning confession about dealing with the perfectionism that has cut into every pore of her life. The findings and advice in the book are supported by expert knowledge, and at the same time the author honestly reveals stories from her personal life. Among other things, she describes how she learned through ups and downs that not every criticism is a death sentence, that not every wrinkle means disfigurement, and that it is not worth ending a partnership because of the wrong cheese. In individual chapters, the author describes the effects of perfectionism on love relationships, on work, in household chores, in the role of mother and daughter. In this book, many people will be recognized who are driven by impossibly high standards, with which they really want to achieve only one thing: to be accepted and loved as a child, parent, partner, friend, worker, housekeeper, etc.
Excerpt from the book
"I stopped reading books that filled my heart and replaced them with those that enriched my mind. I was ashamed of my taste for music because it wasn't sophisticated enough. I had no leisure activities, as I estimated that I was wasting my time with them. Sarcasm has become my favorite language, and insensitivity has become my virtue. For the most part, I did not recognize my needs, but tried to meet high expectations, because I wanted to feel like a winner, and not a loser.«
You are invited to the library.
V ponedeljek, 5. junija 2023, ob 18. uri , vabljeni v Osrednjo knjižnico Trebnje na predstavitev knjige Nepopolna . Z nami bo avtorica knjige Danaja Lorenčič , pogovor z njo pa bo vodila Carmen L. Oven .
Sociologinja Danaja Lorenčič je v knjižni obliki povedala svojo presunljivo izpoved o spoprijemanju s perfekcionizmom, ki je zarezal v vsako poro njenega življenja. Ugotovitve in nasveti v knjigi so podprti s strokovnimi spoznanji, obenem pa nam avtorica iskreno razkriva zgodbe iz svojega osebnega življenja. Med drugim opisuje, kako se je z vzponi in padci naučila, da vsaka kritika še ni smrtna obsodba, da vsaka gubica ne pomeni iznakaženosti in da ni vredno končati partnerske zveze zaradi napačnega sira. Avtorica v posameznih poglavjih opisuje vplive perfekcionizma na ljubezenski odnos, na delo, pri gospodinjskih opravilih, v vlogi matere in hčere. V pričujoči knjigi se bo prepoznal marsikdo, ki ga ženejo nemogoče visoka merila, s katerimi v resnici želi doseči samo eno: da bi bil sprejet in ljubljen kot otrok, starš, partner, prijatelj, delavec, gospodinjec ipd.
Odlomek iz knjige
»Nehala sem brati knjige, ki so mi polnile srce, in jih nadomestila s tistimi, ki so bogatile um. Sramovala sem se svojega okusa za glasbo, ker ni bil dovolj prefinjen. Nisem imela prostočasnih dejavnosti, saj sem ocenila, da z njimi zapravljam čas. Sarkazem je postal moj najljubši jezik, neobčutljivost pa moja vrlina. Večinoma nisem prepoznavala svojih potreb, ampak sem skušala uresničiti visoka pričakovanja, ker sem se želela počutiti kot zmagovalka, in ne kot poraženka.«
Vabljeni v knjižnico Trebnje.